Three and a half rounded up to four stars. My own thoughts on marriage have changed a lot due to various factors since I was a teenager, and I was curious about what other queers thought. This book concerns events and attitudes in 2004. Picking up this book was an absolute delight. What a neat cover! The opinions in this book varied widely, as did the methods of expression. There was poetry, short stories, letters, transcribed speeches and interviews, directions for Wiccan handfasting rituals (Christopher Penczak) and regular essays. The introduction noted it was sorted alphabetically. Some straight people had stuff in here but it was rare and for good reason: support, logic, no gay bashing. The opinions were presented in a balanced way, with no real majority opinions. Everyone made good points, and I put a few bookmarks in my copy so I could think on certain ones. I'm so glad I read this. I learned a lot. It was written twenty years ago, but enough entries seem current. ( )