The Code is a personal memoir about change of heart. The setting and the events described herein took place in Vietnam in 1968 and 1969. The initial fear associated with exposure to enemy fire and the resulting injuries and death of fellow soldiers gives way to an acceptance or numbness of the psyche of the survivor. In any war, the soldier's need to operate at a high level and to do his or her job often required the trading off of what we know to be reasonable. We changed to survive. When the war was over, for some, the road back to humanness was hard to find. As children, we learn how to love and to be loved back. We never had to practice the skill of loving. It came naturally. The Code is about how, no matter how long it takes, those basic skills are always within our reach with the help of Faith, Family and Friends.