A few notes from the book. Mostly I highlighted, and made notes in Kindle.

Chapter 4: The Return of Desire
Banish Victimhood
1. Global helplessness
2. A focus on the bad other
3. The perception of moral superiority

Chapter 8: You Grieve and Let It Go
Chapter 8 describes two categories of love-gone-bad songs. Both types “provide a necessary part of the picture,” but something is missing; “You must grieve what was.”

Grief: What It Is and What It Does for You
“Grief is letting go of what you cannot keep.”

Six Components for Grieving a Lost Relationship (there is a section for each of these.)
1. Acknowledge the attachment
2. Accept that you can’t control the loss
3. Name what you valued
1. Because you must say good-bye to the entire person, not simply the negative parts of the person.
4. Surround yourself with people who are comforting
1. How do you know if someone has the capacity to comfort? By the degree to which they remain present with you when you grieve.
5. Allow the sadness
6. Give yourself the gift of time

Ecclesiastes 7:3 Frustration is better than laughter, because a sad face is good for the heart. (NIV)

Ecclesiastes 7:3 Sorrow is better than laughter: for by the sadness of the countenance the heart is made better. (KJV) ( )

This falls under the category of Relationships. Dr. John Townsend is one of the co-authors of Boundaries. This book details how to re-enter relationships with people who broken trust. He talks about how to know when you're ready, when they're ready, and how to actually move into relationship with them again. This is an excellent read! Highly recommend.

Excellent guide on what to do when boundaries have been set in place to protect yourself from toxic people. How to understand your limits and readiness for reopening relational communication for healing and restoration and when to walk away. ( )