Holli Kenley

With technology becoming more prominent in my children's lives, I am drawn toward literature that informs me and empowers me as a parent since I sometimes feel helpless as I witness how quickly my kids are becoming familiar with the Internet, social media, and any gadget that is placed in their still small hands.

Cyber Bullying No More is a concise, but highly informative book on wise strategies to help parents deal with a reality they wish would go away—cyber bullying. This simple, yet well-thought out book covers three areas of importance: protection, intervention and prevention. The best advice I got out of this book is the amount and quality of communication and supervision that is required from parents when parenting their emotionally young but tech-savvy kids. The principles and daily practices the author expounds are intelligent and they make sense. Her experience as a marriage and family therapist comes through as she takes an international problem and shows families they can deal with it.

All parents should be informed and armed to help their kids in the best possible way and this book does that. Initially, I thought there couldn't be enough information in this publication that looks more like a pamphlet than a book, but after I read it I can see that it's enough information to assist parents substantially without overwhelming them. Yes, technology is advancing at such a rapid pace many parents feel left behind, but this book can help you to see that you are the parent and your authoritative but loving parenting is paramount.

If bullying has become more of a concern for you, the author also includes a bibliography of books for additional reading. I think this book is beneficial for parents with children of all ages, especially 5 and over. Prevention is the best medicine. It's never too early or too late to start. This book is for those parents who want to get on the bandwagon of a parental movement to guide, monitor and balance their children' intake of the needed yet dangerous world of technology.… (más)

“cyber bulling no more: Parenting a High Tech Generation” by Holli Kenley, M.A. is a book for all parents to read. Although the book isn’t very long, 21 pages, the author covers a lot of information. She discusses how to protect your child online by implementing safety measures and negotiating rules and then renegotiating as a child gets older and more responsible; how to get intervention for the child that might be a victim of cyber bulling or the child who is actually committing cyber bulling; and how to prevent destructive behaviors online.

What I liked is that the author doesn’t go to the old standby of “children should be protected from technology.” She understands that technology is a way of life and the best way to protect our children is by educating them and also by modeling proper behavior online. She also discusses on having a safety plan in place (and what it should consist of) if anyone in the family is being cyber bullied.

It is a quick read with a lot of good information. I know that I will be implementing her measures in my home.… (más)

Breaking Through Betrayal: and
Recovering the Peace Within
Author: Holli Kenley
Publisher: Loving Healing Press
ISBN: 978-1615990092

Betrayal. Just about everyone has felt let down by someone they care about. It's tough to deal with, and even tougher to move past it and put it behind you. Once someone lets you down, it's difficult to be sure they won't do it again. You probably find it hard to count on them for awhile. Now imagine someone you love does more than let you down or disappoint you.

The case that immediately comes to mind is that of Tiger Woods and his wife, Elin. Fortunately, most of us will never have to undergo so public a betrayal, so well known and discussed. Betrayal happening to anyone, regardless of their public stature, is extremely painful. Being out of the public limelight doesn't lessen the pain and disbelief that will follow. Betrayal doesn't just happen in romantic relationships. Humans can feel betrayed by friends, politicians, public figures, just about anyone. During the current rough economic times, you may feel betrayal at the loss of a job, foreclosure, or any number of other situations. Friends betray us, leaving us discouraged and distrustful. Betrayal leads to feelings of worthlessness, depression, anxiety and anger. You may be grieving over the betrayal, or feel obsessed by the thought of what happened, or cling more tightly to those around you that haven't betrayed you.

Holli Kenley has written a book that goes in depth to explain the how and why behind the feelings we have following a betrayal. By understanding more about why those feelings occur, one is able to validate them, understand the need for the feelings and offer encouragement and empowerment to move beyond betrayal and into a healthier, more peaceful mindset. Then recovery can truly take place.

Section I of this book covers the knowledge and awareness of exactly what betrayal is, why we suffer negative emotions because of it. She'll clarify the different forms and levels of trust we invest into various relationships, allowing the reader to fully discover their feelings about the individual betrayal and learn to recognize the true depth and degree of the emotions you feel and what you have experienced. You begin to understand the only way to be healthy and whole emotionally is to acknowledge the painful emotions and work through them.

In Section II, the discussion centers on other recovery considerations that may require attention. For example, codependency, which is basically overinvestment of personal resources into someone/something without an adequate return or replenishment. A level of codependency can complicate the journey to recovery. Grief is another recovery consideration. Grief is a natural outgrowth of betrayal, and to successfully recover from betrayal one must understand the degree of their grief and how to work to alleviate it.

Section III is where we move beyond the "prep" work into the actual recovery process. Kenley breaks the process down into five distinct parts, followed by extensive information and techniques for successfully moving through each of the five parts. She includes very specific exercises and instructions for completing each level of the process. Additional resources that offer support are listed.

Overall, this work will be extremely useful to anyone going through a betrayal personally, or trying to help a friend or loved one navigate their way through. Written in a style easy to understand and relate to, it offers help to anyone at any step of the recovery process.

Because the book is well written and detailed, those in a helping profession can utilize these steps and activities with clients of any age who may be experiencing betrayal in any of its many forms. A valuable handbook to maintain in any permanent reference library, this reviewer highly endorses this fine work.… (más)

Do you know how to stop cyber bullying, when you are a parent or caregiver for this modern world of high tech children? Kenley will provide you with a simple how to steps to step guide. She will give you advice and information to stop any cyber bullying that may try to knock on your children’s door. She gives tools and concepts for parents to understand the potentials of the internet communication, as well as those needed to protect and assist their children in using technology effectively and safely. The three concepts used are protection, intervention and prevention in a down to earth easy to read booklet any parent would want to know by reading this book. © 2016 Jackie Paulson… (más)