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Esta cansado de que siempre le digan: "Alegra esa cara!." Le critican por pensar siempre en lo peor? Le gustaria que todos sus amigos optimistas le dejasen en paz de una vez y entendieran que no puede ser como ellos?Si su respuesta es si a cualquiera de estas preguntas puede estar entre los millones de personas que han aprendido a enfrentarse a las presiones de la vida moderna a traves del pesimismo defensivo, una estrategia que consiste en pensar siempre lo peor. Y si el tren llega con retraso y no llega a tiempo a esa importante entrevista de trabajo? Y si no conoce a ninguno de los invitados de la fiesta? Y si no sabe la respuesta a ninguna de las preguntas del examen final? La doctora Norem ha demostrado que recrearse en pensamientos negativos puede ayudarle a vivir mejor. En realidad ha descubierto que mucha gente acaba rindiendo menos cuando se la fuerza a pensar en positivo ya que los pensamientos negativos son, a menudo, una estrategia para combatir la ansiedad.En este libro imprescindible, Norem nos cuenta los casos de muchas personas que han conseguido potenciar los pensamientos negativos para aumentar su autoestima y avanzar con paso firme hacia la materializacion de sus objetivos mas ambiciosos. Al mismo tiempo nos ensena a mejorar, de una manera mas eficaz, la relacion entre amigos, de pareja o con los companeros de trabajo utilizando el pesimismo como arma defensiva en lugar de las tradicionales llamadas al optimismo. Si usted es un pesimista redomado, un optimista a prueba de bomba o una combinacion de ambos, la doctora Norem le ensenara como utilizar su particular vision del mundo para triunfar y conseguir que sus preocupaciones le acaben siendo rentables.… (más)
In The Positive Power of Negative Thinking, author Julie Norem compares defensive pessimism---a strategy for managing existing anxiety by identifying and addressing possible negative outcomes before undertaking an endeavor---with its counterpart, strategic optimism---a strategy used by people with low baseline levels of anxiety to relax before a big event and avoid triggering anxious feelings. Both strategies, Norem contends, can optimize performance for different personalities in different situations. Each strategy has its own risks and benefits, and the secret is knowing which is the right fit for each of us in any particular circumstance.
I've had this book on my to-read list for more than four years, since I read David Rakoff's [b:Half Empty|7957361|Half Empty|David Rakoff|https://d.gr-assets.com/books/1425387545s/7957361.jpg|11689137], which references Norem's research. Reading about defensive pessimism, I could easily identify situations in which I instinctively and successfully use this strategy, like when preparing for a road trip or putting together homeschool curricula for my kids. I could also identify situations in which I instead engage in avoidance and self-handicapping rather than risk feeling the full force of my anxiety, like in the case of the unfinished novel I've been thinking about daily but not writing on since 2010.
Thinking of defensive pessimism, avoidance, and self-handicapping as different responses to anxiety has caused a welcome shift in my thinking. I spent an evening this week listing in my journal all of the negatives about working on my novel, and then wrote out potential ways that I could manage the anxiety around these so that I can actually write down the scenes that play out in my mind. So far, I've not actually sat down to write on the novel, but I consider this a positive move in that direction. At the very least, when I schedule a morning writing session and then ignore my alarm and then don't have enough time to write before the kids and I need to begin our lessons, I can identify this as avoidance. (Putting a name on it has to have some value, right?)
Despite its potential helpfulness in making progress on my personal goals, there are two things that keep me from loving this book. First, it's too long for the amount of information it includes. This isn't as extreme as in other self-helpy books I've read, but I think I could have gotten the basic idea in about half the number of words. Second, it brought up so many tangential issues that I sometimes couldn't figure out how they fit in with the defensive pessimism/strategic optimism duality Norem presents. As helpful as it was to read about avoidance and self-handicapping as ways to avoid feeling their existing anxiety, it wasn't clear how they fit. Are there corresponding negative ways of avoiding anxiety that temperamentally non-anxious people use if they're not using strategic optimism? Or do the negatives for them come in when their strategic optimism tips into the non-strategic version?
I think the book would have been stronger had Norem maintained a tighter focus and left some of the other stuff out, but I did enjoy it, and I'm glad that I picked it up finally.
Información procedente del conocimiento común inglés.Edita para encontrar en tu idioma.
Therefore, since the world has still Much good, but much less good than ill, And while the sun and moon endure Luck's a chance, but the trouble's sure I'd face it as a wise man would And train for ill and not for good. —A. E. Houseman
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Información procedente del conocimiento común inglés.Edita para encontrar en tu idioma.
To my parents, Rosalie H. Norem, Ken Norem, and Sandy Magnuson; my husband, Jonathan Cheek; and my children, Nathan and Haley
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Información procedente del conocimiento común inglés.Edita para encontrar en tu idioma.
The positive power of negative thinking?
Citas
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Información procedente del conocimiento común inglés.Edita para encontrar en tu idioma.
They do not need to be cured of their defensive pessimism; indeed, defensive pessimism is already the treatment for the anxiety that ails them.
Esta cansado de que siempre le digan: "Alegra esa cara!." Le critican por pensar siempre en lo peor? Le gustaria que todos sus amigos optimistas le dejasen en paz de una vez y entendieran que no puede ser como ellos?Si su respuesta es si a cualquiera de estas preguntas puede estar entre los millones de personas que han aprendido a enfrentarse a las presiones de la vida moderna a traves del pesimismo defensivo, una estrategia que consiste en pensar siempre lo peor. Y si el tren llega con retraso y no llega a tiempo a esa importante entrevista de trabajo? Y si no conoce a ninguno de los invitados de la fiesta? Y si no sabe la respuesta a ninguna de las preguntas del examen final? La doctora Norem ha demostrado que recrearse en pensamientos negativos puede ayudarle a vivir mejor. En realidad ha descubierto que mucha gente acaba rindiendo menos cuando se la fuerza a pensar en positivo ya que los pensamientos negativos son, a menudo, una estrategia para combatir la ansiedad.En este libro imprescindible, Norem nos cuenta los casos de muchas personas que han conseguido potenciar los pensamientos negativos para aumentar su autoestima y avanzar con paso firme hacia la materializacion de sus objetivos mas ambiciosos. Al mismo tiempo nos ensena a mejorar, de una manera mas eficaz, la relacion entre amigos, de pareja o con los companeros de trabajo utilizando el pesimismo como arma defensiva en lugar de las tradicionales llamadas al optimismo. Si usted es un pesimista redomado, un optimista a prueba de bomba o una combinacion de ambos, la doctora Norem le ensenara como utilizar su particular vision del mundo para triunfar y conseguir que sus preocupaciones le acaben siendo rentables.
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I've had this book on my to-read list for more than four years, since I read David Rakoff's [b:Half Empty|7957361|Half Empty|David Rakoff|https://d.gr-assets.com/books/1425387545s/7957361.jpg|11689137], which references Norem's research. Reading about defensive pessimism, I could easily identify situations in which I instinctively and successfully use this strategy, like when preparing for a road trip or putting together homeschool curricula for my kids. I could also identify situations in which I instead engage in avoidance and self-handicapping rather than risk feeling the full force of my anxiety, like in the case of the unfinished novel I've been thinking about daily but not writing on since 2010.
Thinking of defensive pessimism, avoidance, and self-handicapping as different responses to anxiety has caused a welcome shift in my thinking. I spent an evening this week listing in my journal all of the negatives about working on my novel, and then wrote out potential ways that I could manage the anxiety around these so that I can actually write down the scenes that play out in my mind. So far, I've not actually sat down to write on the novel, but I consider this a positive move in that direction. At the very least, when I schedule a morning writing session and then ignore my alarm and then don't have enough time to write before the kids and I need to begin our lessons, I can identify this as avoidance. (Putting a name on it has to have some value, right?)
Despite its potential helpfulness in making progress on my personal goals, there are two things that keep me from loving this book. First, it's too long for the amount of information it includes. This isn't as extreme as in other self-helpy books I've read, but I think I could have gotten the basic idea in about half the number of words. Second, it brought up so many tangential issues that I sometimes couldn't figure out how they fit in with the defensive pessimism/strategic optimism duality Norem presents. As helpful as it was to read about avoidance and self-handicapping as ways to avoid feeling their existing anxiety, it wasn't clear how they fit. Are there corresponding negative ways of avoiding anxiety that temperamentally non-anxious people use if they're not using strategic optimism? Or do the negatives for them come in when their strategic optimism tips into the non-strategic version?
I think the book would have been stronger had Norem maintained a tighter focus and left some of the other stuff out, but I did enjoy it, and I'm glad that I picked it up finally.
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