good read ( )

Rosie may be the title character of this book, but it's really about Elizabeth: the orphaned daughter of alcoholics, a young widow after her husband Andrew dies in a car crash, Elizabeth raises Rosie in the Bay Area, making a family out of her friend Rae, and her boyfriend, James. Despite her own worsening alcoholism and her lack of a vocation, Elizabeth is a good friend to Rae and a good mother to Rosie.

Quotes

One day she would write a book about the love and patience that bind one person to another after all the glinty romantic stuff has worn off. (9)

"Do you really believe what you're saying?"
"Of course I do. Otherwise I would be saying something else." (Elizabeth and Rae, 81)

"There's something great and useful I could be doing, and that I don't know what it is hangs over me like some major errand I know I'm meant to do." (86)

Love is details. (133)

It didn't occur to her to give it time, to play it by ear, to forgive him his trespasses. (137)

"I think you can learn to have a loving attitude, like you learn a sport or an instrument." (James to Elizabeth, 151)

She wanted to get quickly to wherever she was going, wanted to wake up already there. And on some non-conscious level she sensed that something in her had to play itself out - had to snap or hit rock bottom - before she would admit defeat, and change. (160)

To her, [James and Rosie] were real, authentic, flesh and blood, she did not quite have this sense about herself. Is Elizabeth the woman washing the dishes, or the mind that hovers above this woman, watching her wash the dishes? (253)

"It is always better to be kind." (Elizabeth to Rosie, 264)

What does it take for you to save yourself? (267) ( )

I really enjoy Lamott’s writing. Her style is clear and cohesive and she writes in a friendly manner. I first encountered her in her nonfiction [Bird By Bird] and [Travelling Mercies] and appreciated her values and the way she made me think about my own. So when I received a copy of “Rosie”, I was ready for a good read, and was not disappointed. However, I only give this a 4 star rating because of the type of live her character leads.
In some ways, Elizabeth leads my fantasy life: she does not need to work, so she spends her days reading and dabbling in the garden. With the death of her husband, tho, she falls into alcoholism instead of dealing with her anxieties. It was very frustrating for me to read chapter after chapter of her waking with a hangover, her fears of repeating the mistakes her own alcoholic mother made, of her promises to stop, to be a better mother. I wanted to shake her & tell her to get a grip, find something meaningful to do with her life. When James gets involved with her, I wonder what he sees in her—what’s to love about a drunk? Is it just because she is movie star beautiful? Her daughter Rosie is really the star of the book—as she is the star of her mother’s life—even tho she isn’t the main character. She is inquisitive, creative and self-reliant. It is easy to empathize with her struggles to deal with her mother’s alcoholism. However, her encounter with a child molester was an unnecessary element in the story. I’m getting tired of the way every recent book dealing with a young girl includes an episode of molestation. I know statistics say it happens to 1 out of 3 girls, but it seems like every author feels obliged to include such a scene to show how “real” the story is. And while the event serves to show how assertively Elizabeth deals with the issue, it wasn’t required as a crisis turning point in her life. In fact, Elizabeth has more emotional reaction to the hit-and-run death of their dog and near miss of Rosie.
Despite my dissatisfaction with parts of the story, I’m still hanging on to my copy. ( )

Engaging characters and tender story line about women, children, parents and friends and the pain of being an alcoholic ( )

Rosie is the story of obsessive, alcoholic woman and her young daughter. Although the reviews on the back of the book claim that the novel is witty and memorable, I found both mother and daughter (and plot) to be boring. ( )