The title of the book caught my attention right away. Being unkind or judgmental doesn’t get you anywhere but miserable. I had to laugh when I read about the two fires that the author and her husband both had in the kitchen. It is so true that we quickly jump on our spouse when they make a mistake. When we do the same thing it isn’t quite as funny. We need to learn to “give grace” and not try to outdo each other.

Whenever I read about Adam and Eve I think of “The Blame Game.” It is easy to point the finger at your spouse but remember there are fingers pointing back at you as you so proudly poke your finger out in triumph. When my husband and I were dating, I wanted to impress him. One weekend we went out to some land his family owned. It was pretty hot that day and he was going to dig post holes. I had this brilliant idea that I would help. I did manage to do one and then decided that that was enough impressing. That story gets told a lot in our family and is known as “Mom will never dig another post hole.” Why do we think we need to compete with each other? Working together brings unity and accomplishes so much more . We can use our strengths to compliment each other instead of trying to cause strive.

I really liked the chapter about communication. Without communication your marriage has a big chance of failing. I know firsthand how easy it is to keep things inside instead of voicing your opinion. As husband and wives we need to be able to talk to each other honestly so the enemy can’t find a way to divide us. If you don’t agree on something then pray about it. When you pray God will give you both the same direction.

I think the book is very helpful and has many useful tools to help us become more compassionate and less judgmental. I loved the chapter about forgiveness and how we need to forgive ourselves as well as others. “Unforgiveness is a deliberate strategy of the enemy.” The enemy also likes to make us feel unloved and unworthy. Don’t fall for those tricks. Know who you are in Christ and ignore the things that try to tear you down.

I received a copy of this book from Celebrate Lit. The review is my own opinion. ( )

I really enjoyed this book! Dendra Keesee's writing style kept me turning the pages and never lost my attention. I love her knowledge of scripture, her personal stories, and all the information she shares to motivate and inspire. She encourages the reader to embrace the uniqueness of both men and women so that we can work as a team and not against each other. Like she says in the book, "Relationships are messy, but the journey is so worth it. Life is better when we succeed together!" I highly recommend this book for every woman, young or old, single or married!

I was given a copy of this book for free. I was not required to give a favorable review nor was any money received for this review. All comments and opinions are my own. ( )