Musashi speaks about coming to terms with one's own skills and abilities and the reality of what he had accomplished that held him to a higher ideal of what life is. This could also be applied to relationships. Take things at face value and don't try to determine how the face value should work either for or against me. That way, I could see from the other person's perspective and even gain control if I wanted to. Yes, control of myself and my emotions and possibly even those of the person I was involved with for any particular situation. The idea became more and more lucid in my mind. When I read that he was also dedicated to painting, sculpture, and music, I felt comfortable because he, Musashi, said that his Way of the Sword was not the only thing that mattered, yet it was the only thing that mattered. This was going to be great for me, and I would learn how to deal with reality from a completely different perspective. It would be functional and real. Besides, if a man could do it.... Then it dawned on me. My heart, my mind, and my vagina were my sword.