Mark Miller (15) (1959–)

1. See the Future

See the future. Embrace the future. Plan for the future in finite detail. Financially. Mentally. Emotionally. You run your life like a family private bank and you will be all set. Remember you control your own life. Do not give someone else that power or control. See the future. Believe in a better future for yourself. Because it will come. So prepare and plan for it.

2. Engage and Develop Others

Develop others by building them up Make them look good by promoting them with your actions and your words. Engage with others at a level you feel comfortable engaging them with. If you do not feel comfortable speaking, then do not talk. There is beauty in being quiet and reflective and observant. You learn a lot from observing the world around you. You do not have to talk just because someone is pushing you to talk. That is even more reason not to talk. They are not engaging you on your level. You have your limits for speaking and interacting. Remember you control your relationship with how much you want to talk. Do not let others dictate how much you talk and when. You decide that and when. Or just shut down and do what you need to do without minimal speech and contact with those pressing you to talk or commenting on the fact that you are too quiet. Move on.

3. Reinvent Continuously

Be adaptive conscious at all times. Constantly move with the flow. Yet take the time to stop, think, assess and plan and then quickly get back to adapting what you planned to your issue you are dealing with in that given moment. Instead of shouting at people or getting agitated and shutting down, take some time to play your heart out in musick or write poetry about what you are feeling. Then try and formulate a response in writing to the individual person in question about how you feel and adapt to the terms you have set. If they cannot adapt to your terms or are unwilling to see you changing for the betterment of yourself and your health then quietly exit the relationship and rely on yourself and poetry and therapy to carry you through the grieving process of leaving the relationship.

4. Value Results and Relationships

Value results in sending a certain amount to savings every time you do not talk outside of being spoken to. Value relationships and give what you can to the relationship and nothing more. Respect people for what they can give you. Give them time and space to heal and grow and thrive. Likewise you need space as well. Remember relationships are like flowers. They take time to grow and flourish. Set boundaries and stick with them.

5. Embody the Values

Embody the values of your clan and what your mentors and books taught you. Remember you can make a difference in life! Start with poetry. Then work your way out to communicating that verbally in a respectful and open way. Openness. Communication. Trust. At all times.… (más)

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I'm torn about how to rate this book. The text offers good, useful frameworks for leading any organization. The text is also takes a long time to get to the point, and repeats the point a whole lot. Once I finished reading, I filled a couple pages with thoughts about how to apply these lessons to my own job, which helped make up for wading through the writing.

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