Amy J. L. Baker
Autor de Co-parenting with a Toxic Ex: What to Do When Your Ex-Spouse Tries to Turn the Kids Against You
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Obras de Amy J. L. Baker
Co-parenting with a Toxic Ex: What to Do When Your Ex-Spouse Tries to Turn the Kids Against You (2014) 30 copias
Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome: Breaking the Ties That Bind (Norton Professional Book) (2007) 25 copias
The High-Conflict Custody Battle: Protect Yourself and Your Kids from a Toxic Divorce, False Accusations, and Parental… (2014) 18 copias
Getting Through My Parents' Divorce: A Workbook for Children Coping with Divorce, Parental Alienation, and Loyalty… (2015) 14 copias
Etiquetado
Conocimiento común
- Género
- female
Miembros
Reseñas
Estadísticas
- Obras
- 13
- Miembros
- 118
- Popularidad
- #167,490
- Valoración
- 3.4
- Reseñas
- 1
- ISBNs
- 33
It may be the worst divorce book ever written. I haven't read all of them, so I can't say for sure, but I do feel confident enough in that opinion that if a contest were open tomorrow asking for nominations in the category of Worst Divorce Book in History, I would without hesitation suggest this book.
None of you are curious as to my reasoning, but in classic Andrea fashion, I'm going to tell you anyway.
The ex-partner is, in every instance throughout the entire book, referred to as "her."
And what is this mysterious "her" doing?
Making false allegations of abuse.
What about if the ex ("her" or otherwise) is doing some abusing and the reader is curious as to how to handle the high-conflict fall-out of having to make those allegations?
Nope. Not a word. Only "false" allegations are covered.
What if the ex (again, "her" or otherwise) is just an enormously difficult person who likes blowing off steam by starting fights all the time over nothing? What if you are looking for advice in how to handle this situation when it doesn't involve lawyers and judges?
Not a mention.
So the whole book is really about ex-wives who are trying to "get back" at ex-husbands through false allegations of abuse, eh?
Yes. The whole thing.
Well, but is that such a bad thing? It happens, right? These guys need a book too.
Sure! And if it seemed actually targeted to innocent people who were unfairly accused of things they didn't do as part of a custody battle, it wouldn't be at all helpful to me personally, but I would have no beef with it.
Though it's worth pointing out that I know quite a few people at this point in my life who tell a terrible tale of woe about the horrible ex and all the untrue accusations she made, just to be retaliatory; and I've got to say that all but one of them are completely full of it. I mean there is only one such person I might think of as being potentially innocent, and the rest were so generally awful to people and did such terrible things that--no matter what the courts said--I believe their ex-wives.
Still. Let's disregard that.
Consider this quote, starting p. 171:
It goes on in this way.
Isn't this what good parents already do?
Umm, yes. Yes, I believe it is. Yes, I believe good, non-abusive parents probably don't need to be told not to slap their children, not to be naked in front of them, and not to make lewd comments to them. These actions aren't "things that could be mistaken for abuse." They ARE ABUSE.
This--and other passages much like it--leaves one with the impression that it isn't so much a handbook to allow innocent men to defend themselves successfully in family court, but to allow abusive men to get away with it. And it makes me feel physically ill.… (más)